How many times have you faced the un-noticed, ignored, invisible "YOU" behind actions that to your part may seem reasons to be acknowledged? How many of these times have you just shrugged with a "let go" thing instead of making the other person know your want for acknowledgement?
My recent posts are trending more towards behavioral pattern. No! I am not doing any management program. My blog just happens to be in that phase now!
Well, to be on point, is it wrong to expect acknowledgement? Personally I don’t think it’s any wrong and I for one do expect it in lot – enough feedback, compliment and goody goody words make me feel good. I don’t see those words as formality factors. "Hey good job", "well done", "Nice, I liked it" blah blah.. are motivational verbs to me and its just a way to get to know what the other person felt about my action. It may seem “ceremonial” to some people, but ask me – I would say I do care for the other person and sincerely would like to know if he/she liked what I did.
On the flipside, only when acknowledged verbally is a “done thing” felt or received well? - There could be a contrary argument of this kind. “Well, I felt good and satisfied, but after all its you, you aren’t an outsider, I don’t have to thank you or say ‘well done’ for what you did”! - could be the other person’s call!
Does it mean you(I) are much evolved than the rest?
No! You are not being natural, it’s all fake – could be the counter!
Sometimes the counter isn’t wrong either. There are cases when we, to our conscious will know that something could have been done better, but hear ourselves saying…”Its fine. Decent job” – thats just not to disappoint the other person. Ofcourse we may take time and effort to explain things to him/her later, but there is this ready - courtesy face all the time! A need to be a good-person to everyone every time!
More questions than opinions or statements! but that’s natural when we deal with any topic that revolves around human behavior – always as complex as it can get!!!
I guess acknowledging someone for their action is more an emotional need and that’s how our brain handles the emotions. Whether we truly feel the need to acknowledge the other person or not, a bit of it can do good..be it fake too! A lie isn’t a lie if it can perk up a person’s mood and better things.
Also there is no wrong in seeking acknowledgement from people whom you think are imperative. If they aren’t the kind, they will soon become one. “Don’t wait for someone. Show how and you will get it soon!”.
A gentle tap for a job well-done, a “thank you” to a simple act-through can make a huge difference in life!
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